Abusive marriages; ABUSIVE MEN SHOULD BE EXCOMMUNICATED - FUNMI IYANDA

During the week, the social media buzzed with so many activities, among which issues on spousal abuse were raised.

A Twitter user, @Moe, who was an eyewitness to a violent couple scene, narrated her ordeal, saying “My hands are shaking. I have never seen a woman being beaten like that in my entire life. I have never.”

According to her, she was driving when she noticed strange movements inside a car that was driving in front of her. 

“Before it stopped so abruptly, I noticed weird movements in the driver and front passenger seats. I wasn’t wearing my glasses. As the car stopped, I came down (from) my car to holler. Next thing I saw clearly. The man (driver) was punching the passenger so hard. He was beating her so ferociously. All windows were up. There was a baby in a baby car seat behind. I kept hitting the windows, At last the man rolled down. At this time I was so furious. 

“‘How dare you beat a woman like that?’ was all I kept saying. The man replied ‘I am not a mad man that I will just be beating her for no reason; ask her what she did. See my shirt. She tore it.’

“I went to the passenger’s side, opened the door and asked the woman to come down. She said ‘I do not have anywhere else to go.’ She sat there in the car, the man kept beating her. As he was beating her, he kept screaming ‘How many times? How many times?’ 

“I kept begging the woman to come down. She just closed the door and rolled up and he kept beating her. I kept hitting the car. Then, they drove off. I don’t even know how to react. I am still on that spot, trying to make sense of what I just experienced.” 

Funmi Iyanda

To this, the TV presenter and activist tweeted: “No family/church/institution should encourage a daughter to return to an abusive relationship/marriage. If you touch my child, l will kill you.”

Funmi Iyanda further added: ‘Girls, rule 1. There are no princes anywhere waiting to rescue you. You own and owe you; not him or anyone else. Leave at first slap’

An enranged Iyanda then said ‘Churches, if not so concerned with the bottom line of patronage would excommunicate abusive men or women.’